Giving the Gift of Receiving

Fa La La, Ho Ho Ho, Season’s Greetings and Let’s Go Shopping! We’ve got gifts to buy, lists to check and people to make happy, right? Hmmm, maybe, and if your life is anything like mine, then yes, definitely! But does it have to be like this? Does all the work and doing and giving fall squarely on one person’s shoulders? No, of course not! Unfortunately, however, many of us have proudly tied that hero’s cape around our neck so tightly that we inevitably cut off the flow of oxygen to our brains to the point where we convince ourselves that we are the only people who can not only get things done but get things done right! Oof, what a mess we create for ourselves, all in the name of giving! It’s no wonder this “magical” time of year is stressful for so many of us. 


Well, guess what? It’s not all about you, and it’s not all about me; it’s also about them. And we are not the only people who like giving, they do too! 


Yes, I understand, we’re trained from an early age to be independent. Many of us have had that training reinforced by experiencing disappointment at times when relying on others. However, it’s important to learn to receive from those truly willing to give and to get past any feelings of shame and unworthiness that might show up in the process. We are all deserving of the help we want and need, and there are others in our lives who are eager and willing and to help us! By not asking for help, we are denying someone else the chance to give. 


We all feel good about giving when it comes from the heart. We naturally like helping people when we are in sync with our Spirit, our Higher Selves. Yet, we often forget that there are other people who feel exactly the same way. We tell ourselves, “oh, I don’t want to bother anyone, I don’t want to be a burden”, but nothing is further from the Truth! 


The people who know you, like you, trust you, they want to be there for you, just like you’ve been there for them! And not out of a sense of obligation or guilt, but rather out of a feeling of joy and being inflow, to experience life more fully. 


For every Giver there has to be a Receiver; why would we deny someone the experience to be that Giver?


Happy Holidays and Much Love to You!