Giving the Gift of Receiving
Fa La La, Ho Ho Ho, Season’s Greetings, and Let’s Go Shopping! The holidays are upon us; we’ve got gifts to buy, lists to check, and people to make happy, right? This busyness is a prequisite to get into the holiday spirit, right? If you’re like me, absolutely! But does it have to be like this? Does all the work and doing and giving fall squarely on one person’s shoulders? No, of course not! But as women, holiday responsibilities tend to land on our shoulders. Even worse, many of us proudly step right up to take it all on for ourselves. It seems we’ve tied that hero’s cape around our necks so tightly that we’ve cut off the flow of oxygen to our brains! So much so we delude ourselves with the belief that it us and us alone who can get things done and get things done right! Oof, what a mess we create for ourselves, all in the name of giving and holiday joy! No wonder this “magical” time of year can be stressful for us!
Well, guess what? It’s not all about you, and it’s not all about me; it’s also about them. And we are not the only people who like giving; they do too!
Yes, I understand; we’re trained from an early age to be independent and to handle responsibilities on our own.. Many of us have had that training reinforced by experiencing disappointment when relying on others. However, it’s essential to learn to receive from those genuinely willing to give and to get past any feelings of shame and unworthiness that might show up in the process. We all deserve the help we want and need, and there are others in our lives who are eager and willing to help us! By not asking for support, we are denying someone else the chance to give.
We all feel good about giving when it comes from the heart. We naturally like helping people when we are in sync with our Spirit, our Higher Selves. Yet, we often forget that there are other people who feel the same way. We tell ourselves, “oh, I don’t want to bother anyone, I don’t want to be a burden”, but nothing is further from the Truth!
The people who know you, like you, trust you; they want to be there for you, just like you’ve been there for them! And not out of a sense of obligation or guilt, but rather out of a feeling of joy and being inflow to experience life more fully.
For every Giver, there has to be a Receiver; why would we deny someone the experience of being that Giver?
Happy Holidays, Seasons Greetings and Much Love to You!